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The Magic of Touch

Posted in Experience, Theory with tags , , on July 18, 2011 by theredlass

In our society, people as despondent. They remove themselves from the social significance of their fellow man and pull away from the intimate connection we share with one another. I believe this makes us disconnected from humanity, which in turn makes us more self absorbed and narcissistic, focused on our own well being over that of others.

Which is why I so thoroughly enjoy massage.

I like to touch people. I get a good sense of who people are by their physical responses to my touch. Most people aren’t used to skin to skin contact so they react a little stiffly and become quite shy. But none the less people respond well to massage. They seem to separate it from random touch. So when someone is stressed I offer a quick hand massage or shoulder rub to ease the tension and help them feel better. I think this works on a more than physical level, creating a sense of relatability and comfort that allows someone to feel a real, true human connection. This benefits their mental state of being and can help bring them back to normal.

One of my favorite things is to take a long hour and give my girlfriend a back massage. It helps her a lot physically because of her spinal trouble but at the same time I think it makes her feel appreciated, wanted and desired. And believe me not a bit of that is un-warrented 😀 But it also gives me a sense of how she is feeling. I touch her skin and I feel her emotions course through me, whats on her mind. Now mind you it’s not like I read minds or anything. I just have a few moments to really let the day sink in and think about things she had said earlier. I have a chance to see how the stress is effecting her and help her by either being there emotionally, physically or just by saying the right things.

It allows me insight. And sometimes that’s all we really need to know about one another. Just a little bit of insight that allows us to connect as human beings.